I reached out to a former coworker that I had worked with for 15 years. It is always great to catch up and let her know I think of her often.
Coping with the Stress of Layoff and Unemployment When a person’s job ends involuntarily due to budget cuts, it is normal to feel a sense of loss and the need to take some time to begin to heal.
At least temporarily, you may have lost many things important to you including your daily work, your work associations, structure for your days, financial security and status, etc. Even though the job loss is due to budget cuts and is not your fault, it is common to feel some loss of self-esteem, and think that somehow you have failed. It can be difficult to tell your friends and family.
Loss and the Grieving Process: Loss triggers a grieving process that may include the stages of shock and denial, anger, resistance, sadness and acceptance.
Shock and denial: Even though you may have known for some time that the job would end, it is still a shock when you get the actual message. It will take some time to absorb the reality of the news. Anger: You may feel anger toward yourself, your employer and even your family. Thoughts like “How could they do this to me?” or “Why did I work so hard for them.” Such thoughts and feelings are a normal part of the grieving process.
Resistance: Sometimes you may find yourself resisting the inevitability of the layoff, e.g. “If I offer to reduce my hours or cut my pay, they will take me back.” In time you will fully accept the reality of your situation.
Sadness: It is normal to experience feelings of sadness and to want to withdraw after a job loss.
However, if your job search is extended or you have other predisposing factors, you may become vulnerable to clinical depression. Getting professional help is critical as depression can interfere with your energy and effectiveness in finding a job. Acceptance Finally, we all work through loss and grief in our own way; we come to accept what has happened, and move on.
You may cycle back and forth between stages. Typically you will have good days and bad days as if you are on an emotional roller coaster. Be patient with yourself and the process. Eventually things will even out and remember, just because you accept something, does not mean you have to “like” it.